If you’ve been part of my community for any amount of time, you know that I am a proud pet parent to two pups and a cat. One of my pups we got when she was a born, she was part of an ‘oopsie’ litter by a breeder and because she wasn’t papered she was given to us. She has all of the confidence in the world and truly believes she rules the school. She has even started standing up to our cat, which is nothing short of a death wish. She will sneak food, she will do things she knows are against the rules, and she loves going on car rides and visiting people.
Our other pup was rescued as a senior while she is very (very, very, very) bossy with us humans and she knows how to hold her own with the other animals, she otherwise keeps to herself and tries her best not to do anything that she knows we wouldn’t approve of. When my husband comes home from work she will cry hysterically until he pets her and before she lost her sight she was glued to my son all the time. She came to us after her owner passed away and she was rescued from a shelter. Between the shelter and two foster homes she had three ‘homes’ before she came to her forever home here. She hates going for car rides, doesn’t like to leave the house, and even though she loves visitors she doesn’t like to go visiting.
That’s Buttons on the left, and our rescue Heidi on the right
Today, Heidi Cried Hysterically.
Today I dropped off our Heidi girl to have surgery to relieve the pressure behind her eyes. As soon I brought out the carrier Buttons (who fears nothing) wanted to get in and go somewhere. Heidi…not so much. She started crying as soon as she realized she was leaving and literally didn’t stop until they took her from my arms, (she is super quiet around strangers and many times people don’t believe she barks at all until they hear her on the phone).
Do You See the Difference?
Buttons has been with us from the start. She never fears being left and she loves being with other people, even when we have left her overnight. No matter how bad she is (and believe me she can be pretty darn bad…from turned over trashcans to stealing Christmas chocolates that were on a table out of reach), but no matter what she does she knows we are her pack, the thought of being left behind isn’t even something she can comprehend.
Heidi feels very secure with us but when something happens (like being put in the car), she seems to be scared that she isn’t coming back. Her first owner loved her dearly, whenever I tell her story I always feel the need to say that.
She Fears the Unknown
Heidi’s fear really lies in the things she doesn’t know. When she leaves the house she doesn’t know where she’s going or if she will be coming back, even if she is going for ice cream she doesn’t know that…she just knows that she is afraid. And while I have to say I think that is a pretty normal response to what she has been through, it is also a teaching lesson for me.
I try to be very candid with my community and part of that is being upfront about things that could help them or areas where I am struggling. So we’ve had some really candid talks about sales slumps and how darn scary it can all be right now. I can’t speak for them but I know for me, I have a fear of the unknown. Even though I have been in business for a few years now, even though I have a loyal customer base and communtiy, even though things always bounce back I still get tied up in the fear that for some unknown reason it won’t all work out and things won’t bounce back.
Here are Some of the Things I am Doing to Help Myself:
- Letting go (this one was super hard), letting go of my business coaching, letting go of many of my weekly meetings, and letting go of tools that are not serving me.
- Switching Gears – I took a poll in my Facebook group and am starting to create products based on what I know my audience is looking for
- Tweaking my affiliate program – making it easier for my affiliates to promote things that I am creating and organizing everything in an easy way for them
- Planning and checklists – I am a huge planner in my business. I live on checklists and keepa to keep me going strong. I will prep things out for the next day and make sure that I hit my goals for that day.
- Being Accountable – believe it or not, being accountable to myself just doesn’t cut it. I actually feel like I am accountable more to my team. This helps me to hit deadlines and keep moving forward even when I don’t want to. If I was only accountable to myself it would be very easy for me to get distracted and put things off, but you can’t do that when someone else is waiting on you.
How Are You Handling the Unknown?